In the world you will have tribulations. Focus on what really matters. Concentrate on “what is” important and forget the “what’s not”. One of my favorite quotes, “If you continue to think the way you have always thought, you’ll continue to get what you’ve always got.” I think we can apply this quote to school, work, relationships, etc.
Many of us often complain about what we are not in control of, and we like to stay where we are comfortable. Did you know there are 73 verses in the Bible about stepping out of your comfort zone? So why stay stagnant?
If you only receive out of life what you put into it, it may be time to invest more. Nothing worthwhile comes easy. So let’s apply this to an example. Let’s look at what you can’t control and apply what you can control. I'll reflect on my own real-life experience and what I should have done differently.
If you are or have ever been in a job where you were overworked, you will understand what it’s like to put time into something you will never get anything from. I have always been a work horse. It was simply how I was raised, to be a “go-getter”. Always finding something to do when I had nothing in front of me. I found myself in love with a job, but it had no love for me. It was not hard to be noticed by others in charge; I was a hard worker, after all I was promoted twice because of my work ethic.
After working for this company for 9 years work found me. I always had something to do. I found myself working 40 hours plus, while taking 21 hours of online classes and raising two kids in diapers. I didn’t have a diploma at the time of my last promotion; job experience or education required was part of the job description. Evidently experience was still not enough for some of my colleagues. I lacked a piece of paper; never mind my 8 years of experience, it didn’t matter.
My last promotion liked to kill me and I had no time for family. I was too busy studying at home. My husband began to call my work “the precious”, which added to my aggravation because I was trying to be the best provider I could be. I was trying to control the situation by trying to prove myself to others. My last year with this company was brutal to say the least. It really didn’t matter how hard I tried, nothing would ever be enough. I was physically and emotionally exhausted from all the drama I endured from this promotion. I could not begin to understand why working hard was not good enough. I was easy going and always turned the other cheek. Maybe the real problem was that I was too passive? Maybe I should have put my foot down with some of these folks, but confrontation is not in my personality. The sad part was I had to hit bottom before I could come back up for air.
I wanted this job I loved to work, and I wanted to be loved by others. The last and final straw was being called into an office where one of my peers told me I wasn’t good enough. I won't go into all the juicy details, but after I told them everything I'd been up to in order for them to understand how deserving I was, their response was, "and that is your story, and everyone has one." Wow...it was all for nothing! It took that comment for me to open my eyes and change my perspective. It took a year for me to realize maybe this was not where I was supposed to be. I had been with the company for so long I was comfortable and didn’t want to do anything else. I was actually meant to do more… something better.
I wanted to retire with this company I loved. My last year was the only year I began to hate my job. Did God have something better planned? I really think God promoted me to push me out the door. He knew I wouldn’t leave without a fight. I wasn’t going to step out of what I was comfortable doing on my own because I wasn’t confident enough to realize my own potential. Today I am self-employed and help run a company with others with the same work ethic, have the same values, and care about those we serve. I get to help doctors so they can improve the care they give to their patients. How cool is that! There are a lot of sick people in the world and I get to be a part of the solution. Hard work for me now is not only rewarding, but well worth it now. I don’t have to sacrifice precious family time now either, which I should have never done in the first place.
First off, if you are putting in your time, and getting nothing in return, you need to stop and take a hard look around; don’t let a year pass you by, it’s time to make a change. If I could have done this differently, I would have stopped to reevaluate the situation way before I was miserable and stressed. I was always doing what I had always done, but I made no real change. I just kept working harder and harder. I was focused on things that didn’t matter. Working hard and trying to prove myself worthy wasn’t the solution. It was just exhausting. I had no time for myself or my family. Don’t ever give up your family for any job, it’s not worth it. God is good and he is the ultimate provider “not you”. If you don’t know where to focus, you need to start praying for one so God can provide it. You may not end up where you thought you were going, but you will always end up where you are meant to be. After all, we can’t physically see anything with our eyes out of focus, it is the same with your mind if you can’t focus on what is important.
Author: Jennie WelterShare